You don’t choose your family. They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them. – Desmond Tutu
This I know to be true. Sweetgirl may certainly beg to differ many days of the week, but she’ll get over it. In about 20 years. Trust me. I know from experience.
Brothers can love the tar out of their little sisters, just as sisters can love the tar out of their big brothers (and little! Hey,Capt. Ahab’s son, I’m talkin’ to you!). I know this for fact because, our Sweetboy most certainly does love his. To smithereens. Much to her chagrin some days (but, not ours).
1) You can write notes, like this one, for your little sister, who is four and refuses to acknowledge that there are things called letters that make up the alphabet. Or, in other news, she can’t yet read. But that shouldn’t stop you from writing to her to tell her what you’ve been learning. “She might find it interesting, Mama.”
2) You can touch the silky strands of your little sister’s hair and breathe in the smell as often as humanly possible, because… well, “it’s so soft and smells so good that I just can’t stand it!”.
3) Then, there are the sweeter moments of sibling love that are best described, not in words, but in pictures. And so, here you go…
And when Sweetboy questions where God is and how we can be sure He exists? I pull this verse out to share with him:
No one has ever seen God; but if we love one another, God lives in us and his love is made complete in us.
1 John 4:12
I ask him who he thinks put that sweet love for his sister inside of his heart? As much as I’d like to claim credit for that, I can’t. I remind him that he is doing a great job of living that very verse out each time he opts to give her the last chocolate chip pancake or ask her, “What’s wrong, Sissy?”, when she’s crying (which is a lot, as she is the ultimate drama queen); or, each time he tells Sweetman and I that he doesn’t want to do this or that activity without “the whole family” or races downstairs in the morning and hops on the couch to share a blanket and snuggle in with her (despite their almost 5 year age difference). In each of these acts, he shows us how we are to love one another.
With sweet abandon.. Oh yes, indeedy.