The Iris of My Eye

Do you have an Iris?


No two are alike, you know.

Here is mine:


The (in)courage webcast, this weekend, included much talk of Mentors; both being one, and having one.

My mentor is my friend.  And her name is Iris.  She is creating a legacy that is born of a desire to live for God.  I want to honor her today, by sharing her, a bit, with you.

My Iris is infused with joy. She has a twinkle in her eye and a laugh like a giddy little schoolgirl.  Her hair is a different color almost every time I see her, and the woman wears accessories with the panache` of a runway model.  She knows her limitations, and has learned well how and when to use the word “no”.  She wears wisdom well.  Grace and humility adorn her.  Her heart is strong in the Lord. And her arms are always open to me.

And that?  That is just scratching the surface of this funny, compassionate, and adorably short woman,  I assure you.


“Isn’t it such a privilege to serve the Lord? It’s such an honor, isn’t it? We get blessed in just so many ways when we do, don’t we?” These are all standard refrains from my Iris.

The more time I spend with this woman, hearing her stories and seeing her delight in life, the more my own appetite is whetted to pursue God in every area of my own life. She has logged countless hours at the feet of Jesus. And the Godly wisdom and counsel she has readily available, because of that time, is precious to all who are blessed by it.

“God gives us children and they are our mission field.   We are blessed to be able to spend time with our children. It’s a crucial time for them – this time that you have at home with them.”, she often reminds me.  When I’m weary of the daily, I can count on her to swoop in with her encouragement to just keep relying on God’s strength, not my own.

She never follows these positive reminders with “Don’t ever forget that!”. And, she doesn’t begin them with “You really should…!”.  No, no. She never chides.

My Iris only encourages.  And mightily.

“I think what you’re doing now – putting your children first, is the right thing.” Each time I consider embarking on a new adventure, this woman, who has been down many of these same roads before, challenges me to consider what I will be giving up for it.  And, more importantly, she asks me what God might be whispering in my ear about it? “Have you prayed? I will pray for you about this.”, she will say.

I’ve been mistaken for one of her daughters more times than I can count. It makes me smile each and every time.

I say she’s my sister.  And, indeed, she is.

What’s more, the legacy she will eventually leave, is one of a woman who loves well and often.  Who laughs at all the days to come.  Who joys in the very moment she’s been given.  Who lives life with zest and enthusiasm for each new challenge. A woman for whom the word adventure is an intimate friend and who is well acquainted with The One who has given her every breath.

I am deeply honored to be mentored by my sweet Iris.  Any legacy I am creating is shaped, in large part, by her influence in my life.

“We’ll keep you in our prayers.”, she ends every conversation with.

And I’ll be keeping you in mine, sweet Iris.

Yes indeedy.


19 thoughts on “The Iris of My Eye

  1. What a blessing! Your Iris sounds like a delight and a true friend! I am so happy you have each other! Since (in)courage InRL, I have been noticing mentor relationships and each one makes me smile. As women, we have so much to share with each other and learn from each other. Your Iris is such a blessing–I would love to meet her just to hear those encouraging words for you flow out of her and into you!

  2. I LOVE her already! God has always been faithful to place one older woman in my life wherever we have moved to. It is amazing how their guidance and encouragement have helped me continue to walk this walk. I just pray that the JOY of walking this walk will be so engrained in me that it overflows to those I come in contact with as I age gracefully as well!! Thanks for sharing!

  3. I love it when I see and hear about mentor relationships. It is so important. I try to encourage everyone to be a mentor and get mentored.

  4. God has gifted you as an amazing writer my friend:-) Your words always flow and capture me. I have an Iris. So blessed. Your Iris sounds amazing and so stinkin’ funny as you say:-) A true Proverbs 31 woman creating a legacy and now you are creating your own shaped by her. Thank you, Lord! Thank you! We all need an Iris:-)

  5. I am inspired by Iris and women like her. I am thankful for women like her God has placed in our lives to help keep us on track! Great post again, Missy!

  6. What an awesome dedication Missy! Iris sounds quite wonderful. I am so glad God blessed you with a wonderful mentor. Thanks for sharing.

  7. Your Iris sounds like such a wonderful lady!! You are so blessed to have her in your life. I love the pics!!

  8. Just to be close to anyone who considers it an adventure and a privilege – and speaks openly about it – to serve the Lord is an amazing blessing. Wow. Thank you for sharing the beauty of Iris. She’s a true lodestar to all whom she meets.

  9. I am so very, very thankful for your Iris!! She is truly a gift of God, and I agree 100% with her that your kiddos are your main job right now. She is a woman as described in Titus 2:3-5 “the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.” So thankful you have her in your life!!! ❤

    • Oh, thank you! She is such an encourager and especially where being a mother is concerned. And it is a much needed refreshment for my weary soul, some days. 😉

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