A Perscription for Peace


I’ve been digging in my heels quite a bit, lately.  Maybe you’ve been here too?  Both my heels and my heart are becoming callused. And, it ain’t pretty!

I can feel the very moment when I know it’s going to happen. Pride rears its ugly head and I refuse to call it for what it is.

And so, I dig in those heels, ready to do battle.

Have you ever tried to do battle in heels?  It’s not easy.  And, I don’t know about you, but I usually end up on my backside, bruised and confused.

Can I tell you? I’ve become weary of doing battle.  Finally, I’m realizing that I’ve been refusing some of the very things that would remove these ugly calluses from me.

Now, I know full well, that refusal can be a very good thing.  Mary refused to busy herself, instead choosing to sit at the feet of the most amazing Teacher and Lover of a soul that could ever walk this earth.  Job refused to take the counsel of friends trying to get him to see reason, and instead, trusted in this Great God who allowed the worst to bring out His best. Ruth, who refused to leave her former mother-in-law for a better daily existence, dug in and Stuck. It. Out.  And, ended up being included in the lineage of Jesus Christ – The Savior of All!

Those sorts of Good Refusals haven’t been on my mind, though.  What’s been on repeat in this head of mine is this sort of thinking: “I need more time for myself.  I need fewer demands placed upon me.  I need to keep my schedule more open for A Possibility.”

I need. I need. I need.

Allow myself to annoy myself.

Because, I surely have.

These refusals? I’m all done with them!

Time.  It’s temporary. And, I do not even fathom it in its current form. My Maker?  He does.  I can rest in that.  He knows exactly when I need more of it. God will, indeed, provide more time, if and when He knows I need it.

Demands. The ones placing the demands are gifts.  I’m not saying that to be trite.   I listened to the heartbreak and anguish of three friends, Three Beautiful Souls, just in the past few weeks, alone, who lost pregnancies.  And I dare to complain that the “demands” of the children God blessed this unworthy womb with, are too great?  For shame. Truly.

Calendars.  Blurry days and jam-packed weeks aside, my calendar does include some Very Important Things.  Things that must be written in stone for the good of this family that I am blessed to be a part of.  But, if I’ll take an honest look at most of the other things, from an eternal perspective?  They’re really not all that important.

Ultimately, it’s not about me. For one who struggles so mightily with feeling worthwhile, this lesson seems awfully difficult for me to master. I so pray it isn’t always.  It’s almost as if I can write it out here, and see my decrepit mindset for what it is, only to forget it days or weeks later, when life gets All Hectic again.

It’s becoming clear that therein lies my prescription for peace.  I must clear some of The Hectic out.  For the good of this sweet family that has been entrusted to me – and I to them.

Choose what is better.  I want to do that.  Don’t we all?

And so, I will.

I’m ditching those heels and setting myself on The Firm Foundation.

Yes, indeedy.

What about you?  Is there a little too much of The Hectic in your life lately, too?  Where can you see places to choose better?

21 thoughts on “A Perscription for Peace

  1. Thanks Missy for sharing your blog that I could read it. I spent many years with the hectic battle doing church things, thinking that was what I was suppose to do. We were hurt by a Pastor who says it was his way or the highway. Because of this none of our children attend church and they are all married with their own family now.My way to deal with it was to put up barrier . Don’t come too close. Through this study God has shown me that I need to let go and trust Him with the past and not be afraid to be used by Him. To be vulnerable and He will take care of me and use me. There have been many ups and downs in my journey and I am now trusting God to finally show me how to let go and know that He is there to help me every step of the way.

  2. Love this. Right where I am lady. I grow so weary doing it on my own strength only to realize it’s my pride that takes me down that road. It’s like I do really well at placing it all in His hands for a few days and then I take it back, “I’ve got this myself,” pretty much sums up how I give it to God. But, He is ever pursuing my prone to wander heart. That brings me comfort. And that there is no condemnation for those in Christ Jesus. And I, too have had to come to grips with my own selfishness as a Mom. IT’S SO HARD OVERCOMING THAT!!! But, it is our fleshly nature. And praise be to God that even while we were STILL sinners, Christ died for us. I pray that we can grow in that together. I can relate to this post SOOOOO much! Love it!

  3. For years I was doing battle in heels and proud of it! I was a ninja warrior, kicking and slicing my way through my calendar like a pro! I, along with a friend, even created a spreadsheet and held weekly meetings with each other to make sure we got EVERYTHING done that came at us as well as projects we had long ignored. We were productive too! But I did not schedule time alone with God, therefore I didn’t make time for Him, except on Sunday’s of course.

    God finally had to do something drastic to get my attention. While going through chemotherapy, I was forced to be still, had no strength to do otherwise. I would not take back that time for anything, but I sure wish I wasn’t so bull headed and it had to come to that. I am 3+ years cancer free now, and although I wish I could say I ‘got it all down”, I am still learning to run to Him faster. I am learning to realize now that when I begin to feel stressed, I can tell it’s because I haven’t spent quality time with Him. I have shorter in-between times my hectic-ness. I’ve switched from heels to flats too (Tanya M) and try to keep both feet firmly planted in His word.

    Thanks for the smile and the honesty.
    Blessings on you
    Mindy H
    The Howell Blessings

    • Mindy, those flats just make perfect sense, now, don’t they? I’m always duly chastened when God has to do something drastic to get my complete attention. My hope is that there will be less and less of me and more and more of Him (and less need for The Drastic).

  4. Love this blog! Clear my hectic out… yes, M’am, I need to… but what a struggle. And surely the world would fall apart when I did that?
    Except it wouldn’t… because the One who created it is still holding it in His hands.
    Thank you for this message. Blessings.

    • Oh, thank you, Lauren! I got a giggle out of your “surely the world would fall apart…” That goes through my mind more times than it should. 😉

  5. You so very often write the things that I could write. I’m as stubborn as they get. I cross my arms and get very stiff, which makes the fall that much more painful. 😛
    “Choose what is better.” That? Is a good word, friend.

    • Oh. Mylanta! Yes – that stiffness makes the fall so much harder than I could imagine. Thank you, sweet friend!

  6. Excellent post today, Missy. Haven’t done battle in heels since I traded them in for military boots 32 years ago. They get stuck, too, and only protect your ankles. I’ve fallen down and busted my rear end in them, too. 😉

    I fought the hectic battle for many years, and I thought I was winning—but instead of getting caught up in the things of this world, I became battle worn from being too busy in “church” things. I was so busy, there was very little left for our own family. When our daughter’s youth pastor moved away, he found himself caught up with this, too. He was told that his family would learn to make sacrifices. Instead of staying TOO busy for his own family, he felt led to start a family-integrated church where the fathers are the spiritual leaders in the family. We are there now. We still evangelize, but we have more time for relationships with other believers. ❤

    • “Battle worn”, yes! Yes, to that! There are so many ways we can fight these battles, aren’t there? Thank you for your wisdom! I can’t tell you how much I appreciate hearing what’s worked (or not!) for those who have stood in my heels. 😉

  7. Oh, Missy, this is a lesson I learn over and over! How is it that my heart is so selfish? But like you, I’m setting my feet on the firm foundation and tossing out the selfishness. It’s a daily task, but so worth it! On another note, I see that you’re going to She Speaks! Yay!! I don’t know if they’re sold out, but I keep wanting to look into going…in fact, I’m gonna look it up, right after this! Anyway, I hope you have a great time!! Blessings, friend!

    • Those hearts of ours, deceptive above all else… That Firm Foundation is calling me something fierce and I’m listening. And girl! If you end up at She Speaks, you KNOW I have to hug the stuffing out of you in person, right??? 😉

  8. Do battle in heels? No way! That is why, my dear friend, I wear flats…. kidding. But, um, OUCH! Your words pierced me like a sword, spoke right to my heart. Funny thing is, my life isn’t hectic right now, but I still want more selfish me time and fewer annoying “demands”. Love the lesson here, Missy. I’m taking note.

    • You make me smile again and again, Tanya. Flats, yes please. I’m scribbling notes right next to you, friend. Right. Next. To. You.

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