Good Enough

For the days that filling, refilling, and emptying the blow-up pool seems like an endless task; for the days that the string of pleas for another Popsicle bombard you like water balloons; for the moments of weakness when answering questions about why God made kids with allergies might do you in; and drumming up meals for distinctly different and picky palates turns into the carrot stick that broke the mama’s back… For those kinds of days?  I cling to the adage that I only have to be a “good enough parent”.

Back during the time that I was first told that depression and I were going to walk hand in hand for a while; back when I wasn’t sure I was cut out to be a parent, after all; back when I desperately needed to know that I was enough for this life I’d been given, I was reminded that on those particular days, I just needed to be good enough parent to get through the day. I don’t need to be a perfect parent.

That’s an important distinction.  One that I often miss when I set out to do this deeply difficult and important parenting thing.

And this good enough parenting thing? It isn’t for every day.  Just for those daysGod knows we all have them.  And we all know we give God lots of those parenting days, ourselves, don’t we?

But, I’d forgotten this whole principle in my desperate desire to get it right while I’m here. And I about ran myself ragged with All The Trying.


And now, I’d kind of liken it to my walk with God.  He doesn’t expect perfection.  His goal is to press us on toward Christ-likeness.

My goal is not to be Christ.

It’s to be more like Christ.

And He tells me that His power is made perfect in my weakness.

And oh, how I give him ample opportunity to perfect His power!

My job?  My job is to focus on doing All The Things as best I can manage.

filling, refilling, emptying, and refilling that pool
providing food one meal at a time
loving the questioner and accepting the questions that I have no answer for

If I do all of those things through Christ who strengthens me, they are all possible.

And I will find that I am, indeed, good enough for the job I’ve been given.

18 thoughts on “Good Enough

  1. Nicely said, Missy!
    Yes. Good enough is truly good enough. From experience, I can say it’s way better than sitting in the bedroom watching tv and eating a bag of M&M’s because I was running on empty from running myself ragged.

  2. Thank you so much for honesty. I too walk hand in hand with depression and there are days – THOSE days where I’m not sure I’ll make it. But grace it covers and I can take to the cross everything I may have left undone and leave it at His feet… thank you for this reminder friend.

    • Grace SO does cover. Sometimes, it feels like so many bricks out of my head when I finally stop and let that sink into a situation for a minute. Thank you sweet friend!

  3. Oh Missy, you have done it again. Hit the nail right on the head for me, right where I am. Well, maybe I should say God did it again through you, my marvelous Sister Friend. Thank you for this. It is uplifting for me. While I am not a parent, I feel like one as a caregiver to a man that has deep needs and challenges after his stroke. Thank you so much for this message. I praise God for this and am so very thankful to know you. Blessings to you Missy!

    • Lizzy, girlfriend – “drowning in my to-do’s” is a top way that I get all bogged down in The Sad and Defeated. Accepting grace right next to you. ❤

  4. Oh, amen, amen, amen, sister!! How I wish I had had a friend like you when I was a young mom!! I’m so VERY thankful for your blog, and pray that it reaches other young moms who also struggle with being “good enough”.

    I’m at my son’s home to celebrate his 26th birthday, and I’m watching my 7-month-old grandson sleep in his swing. ❤ ❤ ❤ As one who also struggled with being good enough, the blessing I have now is being able to look back at how God carried me through those doubts and being able to fondly remember those blessed days of filling and refilling the pool!

    • Well, maybe you didn’t when you were a “young mom”, but now you do!!! 🙂 You enjoy these precious and tender times with this sweet grandson of yours and reflect lots, so that you can share some more of that wisdom you’ve got stored up with me in a few weeks. Okay?!?!

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