For the days that filling, refilling, and emptying the blow-up pool seems like an endless task; for the days that the string of pleas for another Popsicle bombard you like water balloons; for the moments of weakness when answering questions about why God made kids with allergies might do you in; and drumming up meals for distinctly different and picky palates turns into the carrot stick that broke the mama’s back… For those kinds of days? I cling to the adage that I only have to be a “good enough parent”.
Back during the time that I was first told that depression and I were going to walk hand in hand for a while; back when I wasn’t sure I was cut out to be a parent, after all; back when I desperately needed to know that I was enough for this life I’d been given, I was reminded that on those particular days, I just needed to be good enough parent to get through the day. I don’t need to be a perfect parent.
That’s an important distinction. One that I often miss when I set out to do this deeply difficult and important parenting thing.
And this good enough parenting thing? It isn’t for every day. Just for those days. God knows we all have them. And we all know we give God lots of those parenting days, ourselves, don’t we?
But, I’d forgotten this whole principle in my desperate desire to get it right while I’m here. And I about ran myself ragged with All The Trying.
And now, I’d kind of liken it to my walk with God. He doesn’t expect perfection. His goal is to press us on toward Christ-likeness.
My goal is not to be Christ.
It’s to be more like Christ.
And He tells me that His power is made perfect in my weakness.
And oh, how I give him ample opportunity to perfect His power!
My job? My job is to focus on doing All The Things as best I can manage.
filling, refilling, emptying, and refilling that pool
providing food one meal at a time
loving the questioner and accepting the questions that I have no answer for
If I do all of those things through Christ who strengthens me, they are all possible.
And I will find that I am, indeed, good enough for the job I’ve been given.