Ahab and I have always had a tender and precious father-daughter relationship. It hasn’t always been roses, of course. Just ask him about the terribly hurtful stage I went through when it didn’t feel “comfortable” to hug and kiss him anymore. (That lovely age of 13 – it should be banned.)
I now see the redemptive power hindsight has, though. Looking back on the behaviors of my parents, through the lens of adulthood, provides a new understanding of All The Rules.
Clarity is an irony. It’s only in looking backward that I understand more clearly the path I want to forge with my own family, moving forward.
That path, in large part, is because of the one forged by Ahab for his own family.
He may be a Fishing Guru, but what he really excels at is this:
“Don’t think you are better than you really are. Be honest in your evaluation of yourselves…”
Romans 12:3 (NLT)
He may have been rough around the edges, but, with Ahab? What you see is most definitely what you get. (Nana – stop that sighing. Right now!) I learned to take myself, and the things of this world, a little less seriously from him. (Unless, of course, we’re talking about the battle plan for the two Sport Lobster Days in the Keys each July. Then? Then, it’s Get Your Game Face On!)
Ahab taught me how to laugh in the face of danger (“That shark over there? He isn’t interested in you.”), how to go after something you want with determination somethin’ fierce (“Well, get after it! And don’t quit until it’s done!”), how to find the joy in simplicity (“Aw, that’s nothin’ but a thing.”), how loyalty should mean something (“We take care of our own!”), and how laughter can bring some much needed levity to A Situation (“Hair on your upper lip you say? Well then, we’ll just call you Harry and the Hendersons from now on.”)
And he taught me love.
“Aw, you’re just sayin’ that cuz it’s true.” Indeed I am!
I love you Captain Ahab. Happy Father’s Day!
Do you have some fond memories of your father, step-father, uncle, or grandfather? Please, share! And spread a memory or two. I love hearing other people’s stories!